The results of the students' graduation exams have already been announced. The successes and interviews of students who showed high results in the exams have spread to almost all social networks, everyone congratulates them and shares their joy.
However, there are also students who have been preparing for years, directed by their families to study under a strict regime, and yet could not achieve good results. The success of others puts them more face to face with their own failures. Considering that a bigger admission exam awaits them, this situation becomes even more difficult.
It is interesting, what should these students do in such cases? How should parents communicate with their children and support them?
Psychologist Gulnar Orujova, who gave a statement to AzEdu.az on the topic, stated that every parent should accept their child with their successes and failures, and love them in every situation:
“We always say that before the exam, you must support your children. If you cannot provide this support, you must seek help from a psychologist. Applicants who receive psychological support can be more successful in exams. It is even possible to get this support at the very last moment. It is recommended to take your child to a psychologist at least once.
In fact, if the activities of psychologists in schools were at a satisfactory level, there would be no need for this. But the current situation is not like that. In general, the vast majority of parents in our country often compare their children with other people's children. For example, with phrases like “so-and-so scored this many points, why couldn't you?” neighbor or relative children are given as examples.
Comparing is a very harmful behavior. It degrades the child's personality and reduces their self-confidence. If a parent criticizes their child in this way, considering their ability insufficient, this also negatively affects subsequent exams. The child loses enthusiasm, their motivation decreases, and as a result, the probability of showing lower results in future exams increases.
In general, as a psychologist, I think that life is not made up of 120 questions and 3 hours of time. Therefore, the inability of our children to answer these questions correctly does not mean that they are uneducated. They may simply not have mastered a certain subject sufficiently.
Such cases are normal. But we worsen the situation and lower the results by hurting, degrading, or insulting our children. Therefore, parents should try to constantly support applicants. If the result is low, motivation naturally decreases, and in such cases, consulting a psychologist would be the right step.
The result can be high or low. Your child may or may not be admitted to university. But in all cases, he should not be humiliated. Never use words that touch his personality, self, and pride.
It should not be forgotten that a university diploma is just a document. This document does not automatically earn someone a doctor, lawyer, or another position in the future, it simply shows that they have received higher education.
If we look around, we will see that there are enough people who have achieved success without higher education. This shows that success is not always dependent only on higher education. Success depends more on how a person develops themselves and the skills they possess".
